Oh, that's so hard to hear! You've been rocked and I can TOTALLY see where you would become insecure with all of this. Has he been supportive of your emotional state? The loss of a child is gripping to the mother through instincts and, brace yourself, the dreaded HORMONES.
I agree with Magdlyn that you should try setting up at meeting. Sometimes metamores aren't aware of these hardships and they become more understanding of situations when read in. Ad if its more comfortable for you to e-mail then I say go for it. Try it out!
Chin up! We're here
It's just me, my ramblings and the elevator music in my head.
Me: bi, reformed wild-child turned mom and house maid LOL
Crux: straight/hypersexual, possibly mono?
BC: our son, 5 years
CM: second son 9 months.
Mouse: girlfriend! Status new, feelings not so much.