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Old 07-12-2013, 07:03 PM
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Originally Posted by sparklepop View Post
I was saying to my GF this morning that perhaps it's just time to accept that she gets lost in NRE and I get lost in turmoil.
Recognizing the fact that someone has a strong reaction to NRE is probably a good first step to acceptance. Then making decisions regarding how you want to associate with someone who has this trait is next. What shouldn't come into the equation is the feeling of entitlement to that person and the illusion that you have some say over what they do with their time. The entitlement mentality is hard to get past, it is reinforced in the environment (at least mine) at every turn. So coming to terms with the fact that I am not entitled to someone spending their time on me the way that I would like has been a journey.

Most people don't seem to recognize they are not entitled to this, but I am of the opinion that it will lead to healthier relationships in general.
Me: male, 43, straight, non-hierarchical, independent
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