Originally Posted by Marcus
The more I think about this the less I agree with it. That is, I can't see a way for my partner to "be responsible and take time away from their puppy love" as being anything but forced placation out of a sense of duty to me. I either want my partner to desire to spend time with me or to not spend time with me - there shouldn't be any other motivators involved in this decision.
Accepting or initiating a sleepover with me out of a sense of duty is exactly the opposite of what I want. SO! Please strike my previous comment from the record.
No, of course, "duty" is an old fashioned concept and no one should ever do anything out of duty. Writing thank you cards to Aunt Mabel is a duty. Who does that anymore?
I agree, one should do it out of love and desire to be with the lover(s) already in place. I mean, I have never had a problem being eager to be with miss pixi after spending time with any of the men I've dated since meeting her. Actually she rings my bell better than all of them so it was never a problem. Even now, with my "Mr Right", Ginger, he meets needs she doesn't meet, but she meets needs he doesn't meet, so I can't do without either of them! I'd never just take off with one for an extended period without moving heaven and earth to stay in touch with the other.
But then, I've only been with miss p for 4 1/2 years, Ginger 1 1/2. Don't have the 7 year itch yet... so who knows?
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
There's no lying in polyamory!
I'm a 58 year old woman with 2 partners:
miss pixi, my live-in gf, 36 (together since Jan '09)
Ginger, bf, 61, married, lives nearby (together since Jan '12)