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Old 07-12-2013, 01:15 AM
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Well, damn. You 2 were spending 4 or 5 overnights a week and suddenly she meets a new person and swans off for 7-10 days in a row and barely drops by to say hi (shower, get fresh clothes, I bet), twice a week?

That's cold.

I'd say SHE's bad at poly. To me that sounds like shitty rude behavior and crappy handling of her NRE.

I don't agree with Marcus that you have to get better at being alone. I mean, maybe you do, but that's besides the point. You and she had a THING, and suddenly she changes the rules without discussion or any compassion for you. If you're used to hanging out and dating her that often, it would take time for you to find hobbies or line up friends or join a gym or whatever. Of course you missed her!
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley

Mags (poly, F, 62) loving Pixie (poly, F, 40) since January 2009, living together since 2013
Seeing Kahlo (polyish, M, 45)
Master, (mono, M, 36), Pixie's Dom/bf for 3+ years
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