When it comes down to it, I just don't think she's up for a poly relationship. She gave it some effort because of how she feels about me. But it's just too much for her and she said she doesn't think it's fair that we all have to feel the way we do. Which I take issue with-but this is how I know she's not up for poly. I was willing to do the hard work-and did it. I view tackling my insecurities and opening up my life to her as a blessing. A gift of personal growth that I embrace. She viewed that as unnecessary hardship. Not sure she would ever get past that.
franchescasc-33, bi female, likely monogomish formerly in triad relationship with:
FJ-36, married 15 yrs
MD-35, gf for 8 months
Currently dating SM, male, 40, monogamous