Originally Posted by AnotherConfused
And as simple as it would be to say, "Hey, we're not sexually compatible, so let's not have a sexual relationship any more," what does that really mean? Divorcing, battling for custody of our sweet daughters? Over sex?!
I think being sexually repulsed by your monogamous sex partner is more than enough reason to change the nature of your relationship. Clinging on to an arrangement which has quite obviously failed because changing it might be difficult is faulty motivation.
"Battling for custody of our sweet daughters" seems like you have the worst case scenario on the brain. Or is it reasonable that your husband will behave irrationally and try to harm you because you want to live your own life?