You've said on your blog that your h is JEALOUS. In caps. This is a huge red flag to successful poly. Even if you 2 do find your hot bi babe, he could get jealous when you and she are sexing each other, or texting each other, or go out shopping and end up with a couple private jokes, or talk about girl stuff, or brush each other's hair...
Sex: women can go longer than men. I've read about men getting jealous after a 3some, he cums and passes out, the women keep going and he gets mad when he realizes this.
Et cetera, et cetera.
And he's a manly man, truck driver who likes to blow things up? Eek.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
Mags, F, 60, poly-dating, loving and living with
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Punk, 41, M
Old Friend, gender fluid
Nick, 35, M (occasional lover)