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Old 07-08-2013, 07:35 PM
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Originally Posted by xotheladyxo View Post
I suppose I have a lot to discuss with my husband before we do anything else.
Hell, yes! How long have you two been talking about it? Some couples take a year or more to prepare by talking with each other, with others, maybe even counseling, going to poly meet-ups, etc.. I think it's a great idea to read a good poly book together, such as Opening Up by Tristan Taormino or Polyamory in the 21st Century by Deborah Anapol, and review each chapter/issue with each other.

You can also download some worksheets at Taormino's site: Free Downloads from Opening Up

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The triad was what seemed to work for us and I'm not sure he would be as open minded to other configurations, but I guess I won't know until we talk. Hopefully he will be open minded and understanding.
There are so many ways to practice poly!
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An excellent blog post on hierarchy in polyamory:
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