Id post something...but my story would be awfully similar to Dagferi's. though my BF is married, and there is some issue there. I met another couple recently who each have a "list" of approved people (by their spouse) of whom they can "play" with (their words) and thats it. To me, that isnt 'poly' per sey because it doesnt involved a relationship commitment...but thats just me. for me, poly is have love/commitment to more than one person, and i also dont believe in giving your spouse control over your love life.
keep on keeping on