Originally Posted by Natja
I am sorry that is really difficult but the truth is that jealousy avoidance is the numero uno worst triad assumption. It really doesn't help at all and I am sorry you have become so invested in that model and ideal, it's pretty hard to get that out of the system.
Yeah, I'm almost ready to just give up and stick to my monogamous marriage. This is something I really wanted. It didn't have to be a triad for me, but that was the configuration that we thought would work best for us. I guess I was wrong. I'm not sure any configuration is going to work if my husband is jealous and I don't want to put him in a position where he would be uncomfortable or unhappy.
I'm feeling defeated. We wanted to find a way to make this work, but from all I have read and heard. . .maybe it's just impossible.