Nobody bashed you Dh .. If you do not want feedback don't post on a public forum where you will get honest feedback.
You are unicorn hunting .. He is another bit of reading about couple privilege which your post reeks of.
40 yo straight female
Married in the eyes of the government to Butch since 2001...
Murf my monogamous second husband has been with me since May of 2012.
In a V relationship with an average 60/40 split of time. Only due to Murf's and Butch's crappy work schedules.