Originally Posted by YellowBird
We're talking. Discussing. Getting closer to each other. If/when we START this life, we'll all be on the same page.
It is possible to make your situation work, if you ALL really do your homework and are all prepared for the possibility that you will ALL have to change. The odds however are probably stacked against you.
Many people are not prepared to grow and learn, much less take personal responsibility for their actions, and therefore get into trouble when it comes to something as complex as a multi-person relationship.
I would take all the 'negativity' you are hearing with a grain of salt - some of it may well be down to people having had bad experiences based on incorrect expectations and poor communications in their own lives. What you might take from their responses though is that a lot of people have either been in or seen similar setups to yours that did not work out well.
NRE is a real issue though. As Dr. Helen Fisher says, it is a state of bio-chemically induced temporary insanity that really does make it impossible to view the world rationally. That's what this forum is good for, when it works without descending into chaos! You can get good sound feedback on your situation from people who are not in your 'NRE-bubble'.
Best of luck.