It should be common etiquette.
Murf only has small windows in which he can text me. Luckily Butch understand and even if we are out on a date at 9 pm he understands and is ok with me texting with Murf a bit. But then again I do not ignore Butch while I do so. Same thing with our midnight conversations.
40 yo straight female
Married in the eyes of the government to Butch since 2001...
Murf my monogamous second husband has been with me since May of 2012.
In a V relationship with an average 60/40 split of time. Only due to Murf's and Butch's crappy work schedules.