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Old 07-05-2013, 09:15 PM
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There is a huge difference between saying "Do not text your other gf at such-and-such time or in such-and-such situation" and "I really would appreciate it if you were present with me and giving me your attention right now. I want to talk to you and enjoy your company." The first is telling him what he can or cannot do, effectively attempting to manage his other relationship (which is none of your business), while the second is asking for what you need.
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