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Old 07-05-2013, 08:43 PM
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Originally Posted by Hes View Post
At the same time I want to be gentle with myself as we venture into this new territory. Thanks!
I don't exert control over my partners (not that any partner of mine would let me).

A more constructive approach is to deal with your own problems. If you are feeling insecure you should seek therapy, do some reading, get in shape, get a better job, whatever it takes for you to feel better about yourself. Putting restrictions on the environment so that it can better coddle your emotional issues is not a solution... it is just delaying the inevitable while at the same time risking your current relationships.

Avoid asking someone else to adjust their behavior in service to your insecurities.
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