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Old 07-05-2013, 07:17 PM
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Originally Posted by Hetaera View Post
No, I didn't go into this knowing full well what it was about.
Well, now you have learned something. Don't go into a relationship without knowing what you're getting into.

Originally Posted by Hetaera View Post
That goodness that London & Boringguy are in the minority or we'ds all be fucked.
We're all anonymous people on a message board, and don't really have the power to fuck anyone over unless you give it to us. Take what you value from what we say and leave the rest. I appreciate you sending me thanks for my earlier post, btw, but sometimes the harshest words contain a kernel of truth that can be useful.

Originally Posted by Hetaera View Post
I actually just told him that I don't know if/when I will see him again & that I don't know if I can remain friends with him b/c of the way he's treated me . . . I asked him for more time our last night together, if he complies, I will probably see him, if not, I'm probably going to end it completely & not even bother with being friends . . . Lessons learned.
Seriously, if you learned any lessons from this, why would you still consider meeting up with him? Don't let an unrealistic attachment, fear of being alone, or horny dreams of hot sex get in the way of good judgment. Be proactive, find your spine, and take a stance instead of waiting for him to choose - you already know what his choice will be, anyway. And even if he does give you what you want now - wouldn't you say that is too little, too late?
The world opens up... when you do.

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