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Old 07-05-2013, 11:33 AM
Hetaera Hetaera is offline
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Originally Posted by nycindie View Post
Unrealistic expectations are really what kills having satisfying relationships in the here and now.
OMG...I'm not going to quote the whole thing you wrote but WOW! You nailed it. I've been sitting here hating this guy. Hating his fucking guts for treating me like a 2nd class citizen even though my other lover has been trying to help me see it differently. I'm just going thru the stages of grief & will come out the other side. I've been thru much much worse.

I don't know what it is about me, and please I'm not conceited, it could be as simple as my phermones, but guys often "fall in love" with me even when they claim to just want to be FWBs, I don't always fall but this time I did even when I knew it was limited. It never meant that I would break up his marriage or wanted him forever, but it still hurts.

This is by far, the best, the most lucid advice I have gotten on this topic to date! THANK YOU!
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