Originally Posted by graviton
One of the terms of our being reunited was that she was no longer allowed to date outside of our marriage. I on the other hand am unwilling to stop dating her friend as we have both fallen deeply in love with each other.
Do you imagine that this ultimatum and expression of control over your partner is going to bring about a more intimate and trusting relationship? Is it going to heal your hurt feelings and encourage her to be more honest with you in the future?
You are punishing your partner and rubbing her face in it by doing what you forbid her from doing. This is not the act of a loved one.