I always call BS on the whole couples privilege thing. People are not toys to fill your time with when you are bored with your home life.
I have been married 12 years. Have 2 younger kids at home. I still find time for both men in my life almost equally. Murf's schedule is the only thing preventing a true 50/50 split of my time.
Unfortunately not many seem to be able to handle such a situation.
Late 30's staight female
Married in the eyes of the government to Butch since 2001...
Murf my second husband has been with me since May of 2012.
In a V relationship with an average 60/40 split of time. Only due to Murf's and Butch's crappy work schedules.