Boy do I know that one Tree.
I left our local poly community after being told it was unreasonable of me to plan an activity at my home and NOT allow a lady to attend who had previously actively and openly attempted to convince Maca to leave me.
I finally got tired of her harassment and just bailed on the whole social group.
I have strong feelings of dislike for her. The dysfunctional need to try to destroy someone else's family life offends me.
On the other hand, there was a lady who had all sorts of problems and wanted to do the same thing-but didn't actually DO or SAY anything. I don't have such strong feelings there.
Bottomline for me is-this is OUR home (all 5 of us). That means it needs to be a sanctuary for EACH of us. Therefore-no one is welcome who isn't willing to treat ALL of us with care and sensitivity for this being OUR HOME.
Anyway who doesn't meet the standard of respect we have for friends and extended family-doesn't come over twice.
I don't give a rip if Maca wants to meet them on his time somewhere else.
"Love As Thou Wilt"