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Old 07-02-2013, 12:26 AM
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(personal opinion to follow)
Trust isn't something that "just comes back" it has to be re-earned.

I cheated, I lied, I came clean, I apologized, I changed.

HOWEVER-that doesn't mean all of a sudden because I said I was sorry and I decided to change that trsut was rebuilt.
It's taken years of me being true to my word and showing that "when the going gets tough" I will continue to be honest and forthright-for that trust to be rebuilt.

Now, I will grant-one lie, one time-shouldn't take years to re-earn trust. But, "I'm sorry" doesn't make it happen.

Stop beating yourself up over the fact that like a normal human, you need to SEE a change before you can believe it.
(there's a reason we always say actions speak louder than words)
He's given you the words-that's great. Going to take some time and trials to see if he follows through with the actions.

Anyway-in the meantime, read through some of the blogs on here-there's a wealth of "how I could have managed better" and "how I navigated xyz emotion" in there.

LR
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