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Old 07-01-2013, 11:47 PM
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Originally Posted by Tonya View Post
Question though - what do you mean by " you want to stop obsessing over this 'relationship' stuff." ?

Am I overthinking everything? Is there a way to just relax and let the card fall as they will and NOT be so scared of screwing things up?
People have a tendency to worry about or try to fix "the relationship"; when the truth is that what they need to be working on is themselves. A relationship is just a pair of individuals who happen to enjoy being together and sometimes share certain life duties (kids, splitting rent, etc). No matter how many parts of life you are partnered on, you are still individuals and the concept of "fixing the relationship" is just a distraction from reality.

Does that make sense?
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