Originally Posted by Magdlyn
Typical traps are double standards and overly restrictive rules for one's primary.
Are you allowed to date men or only women? If you fall in love with someone instead of having merely a FWB/fuckbuddy, what the heck are you supposed to do? Break up with someone because you care "too much?" That sounds like a skosh away from monogamy, and not poly at all, more like swinging.
I'm allowed to date whomever I like. I'm more into men in general.
I think I wasn't clear. I meant that when we first started talking about poly, DH was only okay with a FWB situation for both of us. But now he is realizing he would rather have something more solid and real, not something just about sex. Which makes me happy because I'm not a very sexual person and for me it's more about a connection and relationship with someone. So there's no double standard. Neither one of us has the "no feelings" rule imposed on us.
Neverwhere - exH, we have a son together.
Amanda - Neverwhere's 1st wife and one of the reasons my marriage to him ended. They have three sons together.
Mark - Neverwhere's brother. We are dating. He is mono.
JBR - My boyfriend of 8 months, also poly, has kids, we live together.