Originally Posted by Realisticexpectations
How do you split up your time between your primary and secondary relationships? Is there a an easy way to navigate this? I find it difficult being that I dont want to hurt feelings or make my primary feel left out.
I don't rank people into hierarchical roles; I am not in the military.
I spend time with people as I have the availability and desire and I am not responsible for their emotional state. If, for instance, they don't "feel like I'm spending enough time" with them they are certainly welcome to invite me over to visit or whatever floats their boat and I will accept their invitation if it is something I want to do. This is the same with any loved one who wants to spend time with me.