I don't have primary/secondary relationships.
I live with my husband and my boyfriend and our kids.
I generally SLEEP with my husband, because my sleep habits don't mesh well with my boyfriends ANYWAY. (even when husband isn't here, I generally sleep alone vs with bf).
However-most time is spent as a family together. Date's are one on one and we *try* for one a week each-but honestly-that almost never works out. LOL! We're too frequently disrupting our own date nights with family activities-ESPECIALLY in the summer.
"Love As Thou Wilt"