I agree. I have 2 men in my life as fulltime, live in loves. We have 2 (of 4) children left at home and 2 grandsons who visit several times a week.
The men both have full time jobs, I home school the 2 children at home and I am a student as well.
I have friends who mean very much to me-and I don't see them enough for MY preferences-
SO to me, that means I DO NOT have time for another lover.
But, some people prefer more... distant, un-involved relationships than I, so I try not to press my preferences onto other people.
Time is limited though-especially if you aren't willing to intermix people together.
"Love As Thou Wilt"