Thank you, Jade! Lots of love and blessings to you too.
I've been looking back upon my relationships with Vanilla and Moonlight, and figuring what exactly went wrong. I think a lot of it was inexperience with poly, especially with NRE. I quit my relationship with Moonlight, not because I didn't love him but because I felt this intense connection with Vanilla. My NRE wit Moonlight was over and my NRE with Vanilla was still going strong.
Then with Vanilla, we repeatedly did stupid NRE decisions when it came to new people we were dating. I feel that if we had a little more understanding and patience when it came to NRE, we could have made it. It also makes me hopeful that we might get it right this time, now that we know what to look out for.
Me: bi female in my twenties