Originally Posted by LHCG3
We've been in a healthy, committed relationship for almost 3 years now and have talked several times about the possibility of maybe adding another individual down the road.
Hi and welcome.
Look around the boards, do a tag search on "triad" and "unicorn." You may learn from other's experiences that tight couples who want to share almost everything almost never succeed in sharing another human being, no matter how determined they are to all be "equals."
Triads most often are successful when you see each new lover as an individual. No expectations the new person needs to fit in a box of being attracted to, loving, both of you equally. But occasionally, when a couple is dating individually, one of their OSOs just might fall for the other primary partner as well.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
Mags (poly, F, 60) loving miss pixi (poly, F, 38) since January 2009, living together since 2013
also loving Punk (monogamish, former swinger, 42, M) since Oct 2015
"Master," (mono, 34), miss pixi's Dom for 2 years