There's a good Eleanor Roosevelt quote that fits here. Ummm it's.....
"Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people." NO that's not it...
"A woman is like a tea bag - you can't tell how strong she is until you put her in hot water." SHOOT that's not it either...
Wait, here it is:
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
Don't let him convince you it's your fault. Chances are your not faultless however I love Gala Girls: all relationships have an end, sometimes it's death, sometimes it's not!
It was just time and chances are if/when your ready you will find someone who's not so mean!! Good luck with the kids. Be strong, be better than him for the kids & don't let him hurt you any more.