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Old 06-28-2013, 02:40 PM
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Default Dating an ex?

I realize that making your own definition of "normal" is probably important with poly, but I wanted to ask if anyone else has tried dating an ex? How about an ex husband or ex wife?

My husband is dating his ex wife. It took many years for me to get to the point where I'd be okay with this. I knew he still loved and cared for her. They have kids together that we have all been co parenting fairly well these last few years. But he would always deny having feelings for her and she would do the same.

DH knew I wanted to try poly since before he and I were even married, but I think he was afraid I would leave him if he admitted his feelings. He's also very good at shutting down and just "deciding" he doesn't feel something.

In the week since they've been dating, they are very happy together. And I'm happy for them. But I guess I'm wondering if it's a bit odd involving an ex like that? I suppose it shouldn't matter what other people think, but I'm new to this and am trying to avoid pitfalls. I'm a reader. I read every bit of information I can on a subject before making a decision so... I use this board as research. lol

Any thoughts?
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