I guess the answer has a couple of levels to it. I do love him. And I do think that if he actually works on stuff (which I have made clear to him finally that if he doesn't then it is a deal breaker and I'm gone) things would be fine.
But I also have this fear of myself that I wouldn't be able to find someone that would want me as a primary partner (mind you I have no idea if things with Primal would go that way if Woodsmith and I were to explode because he's mentioned he only wants me to see him as a secondary so I can have my relationship with Woodsmith be primary) and I know that I would become very clingy towards Primal without that and I don't want to harm his relationship with Lamian if that's not something that would be okay.
Woodsmith: My husband
Merry: Tig's wife/slave
NT: Merry's boyfriend/owner
Elle: NT and Merry girlfriend
Umbra: Elle's Dom
Pet: Umbra's slave/wife, Elle girlfriend
Domo: Pet's submissive