Like II mentioned, sometimes it's all about timing!
and you have to get out when it's easy. Not being realistic about treating you as an equal doesn't just sound or feel manipulative, it is manipulative. Having all your texts go to both of them is pretty lame, I once had dated a woman who allowed her partners to read every email, and every text without telling me, it was an ugly abusive situation that I wished I had gotten out of much earlier than I did.
Glad to hear you are making smart decisions