Originally Posted by opalescent
I consider my personal boundary to be one more about privacy, and staving off the comparison gremlins in my head. Whip is not responsible for those gremlims or for my handling them. But not hearing sexual details helps me to not compare myself to his other partners. It's not something I do often, and I am not particurarly envious or jealous in general. But if I get started down that path in my head, well, it can be hard to stop. I also suspect that as I get more comfortable, this boundary will ease and change.
my wanting to know, is for a similar reason. I actually have an easier time not playing the comparison game if i DO know what they are doing. Granted, we've had minor backfires...like i asked spouse to do something, then he wanted details of where i got that idea, and it got a little awkward. but turned out ok