as a secondary, no i wouldnt find that level of dont ask dont tell comfortable, or acceptable. I want his wife to know what i mean to him, but thats me.
I can answer you mroe on your first question, yep. I like the details. I know intimate details of the lady areas of the women my husband has been with, i know what BF's wife does and doesnt like and what they do together. more with hubs than with bf, hubs and i out right goof around about it in vast detail. it doesnt bother me, sometimes tis funny, and sometimes it turns me on. to each his own