Originally Posted by Marcus
If it is wrapped up in one conversation I would say that is no good for the home team, because she probably said "NOPE"
Agree with Marcus! This took us many many many convos, and the first time he said no...then he said he'd divorce me...then he said yes but no sex....then he said i love you, want to stay married to you and lets gives this a shot. We are happy, and my BF (who yes i do have sex with ) and his spouse just came over last night. It takes a great deal of work, but I think youre having done the research and reading and explored your own needs is great. It is important to convey that you love this person, but you feel this is who you are and forcing yourself into monogamy is not good for either of you (and neither is serial monogamy)