I've been stalking the board all day yesterday, but I will check out that section too, thanks.
I don't have a set time limit on how long it will take me to date.... The woman DH is seeing is a close friend of mine and right now the three of us are content to see how this goes and work on becoming a unit of sorts together. So I guess when we get THAT part figured out, I'd be looking for someone myself. Or open to finding someone.
I don't think there will ever be a time we can be openly poly with our family. Maybe a situation where they MEET our significant others as friends or something or roommates, but.... even when the kids are grown that would be very hard for our family and some of our more religious friends who we are very close with.