Ouch. You have a gift, my friend, of talking about your shit that turns it into poly gold for people who need to learn a few things. I especially like that you expressed your feelings about being sidelined by a drama llama. Sooo been there. Remember your feelings are just as valid.
You and your wife are awesome, and I'm pretty sure you'll keep on being that way. Hugs to you both and hope to see you again soon. We miss you guys!