Compromise? That is a foreign and non-existent term in my life these days. Balance in the two relationships was lost a long time ago. Try years ago. It is going to be a long time until it is back at 100. It is stalled right now because there are no other romantic relationships to balance. Even when there is another one, balance still will not be restored. My husband has an arsenal of stipulations and new boundaries that grow by the day.
No, I was not going to apologise to her, and when I saw it was a problem, it stopped. Unfortunately, it caused a problem between my husband and myself. I knew it was going to come up, and it did. Our first poly related session with our new doc was this morning, so it was the perfect time to address it. Let's just say it would serve me well to get comfortable in my new found mono marriage.