Originally Posted by Key1
To be honest I think I have just answered my own question but what are our thoughts and what should I ask him when we meet up?
This is an introduction section.
"Hi, my name is, I'm poly (or not), hoping to whatever"
Your specific issue about being in denial about why your loved one left the country and all of your friends and his family are treating you like you are a bomb waiting to go off... needs to be in one of the other areas.