Completely understand that one! I struggle with the same issue. I'm a total control freak and while I don't get jealous-I worry that if I don't take care of it-it won't get done! UGH.
Having this surgery-really forced me to be dependent on others for the first time in many years and it sucks. But it was a good learning experience for us as a family too.
I wish you the best Redsiren. Stick to your guns, persistence is the key.