Changing needs and priorities
Vanilla and Pistachio are in the process of changing their relationship dynamics from primary to secondary, with him eventually moving out. This might take a full year, though.
It will mean that both me and Vanilla lack a primary while dating each other in a secondary mindset. It's new and exciting, first time I will be flying solo in the poly world.
I've noticed that my needs and priorities have changed when it comes to poly. I no longer find it necessary to have a primary of my own in order to be a good secondary.
Me: bi female in my twenties