I read thru my post and realized it was vague. I am a military man, been married to my wife (malificent) for 14 yrs. I really haven't been in the poly life for very long, a few months now. My wife's and gf have been together for over a year now, I am now slowly starting a relationship with the gf. Their is a lot of love between the three of us, and we have seven amazing kids among us. Hope that makes more sense then before.