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Old 06-22-2013, 03:19 PM
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Originally Posted by rws0042 View Post
And at the same time, I want to be able to brush it off because it shouldn't matter.
I don't see why you'd want to brush it off. She knows you two were on a date and she called in the middle of it to invite him out on a date with her?

In what world is that not being a self-absorbed jerk?

Originally Posted by Dagferi
Yes say something but don't do it in a worked up moment. After you have a chance to think about things calmly bring it up. Not via text or email either. Face to face.
Agreed. While I think M is either being outright rude or being so self-absorbed that she doesn't know you exist, it doesn't change the fact that a calm conversation is the way to go.

Originally Posted by rws0042 View Post
And, if it turns out that his rule is going to be "M. can call me away at any time for any reason and I will break dates for her no matter what." then he can go have that rule with someone else, because I can't be treated that way.
Good for you, hopefully that isn't the case though.

I won't date someone who has a choke chain for some outside person to yank at any time they are feeling insecure. This is why I won't date people who use hierarchical ranking systems and I'm hesitant to date people who have monogamous partners. I only date people who control their own destiny and decide for themselves how they want to spend their time and energy.

Originally Posted by rws0042 View Post
Or is this just karma coming back to bite me? A few weeks ago I did something inconsiderate that really hurt and frustrated my husband and I felt awful about it. I did everything I could to make it up to him, but maybe karma just needed to give me a good bitch-slap about it, just to be sure?
It is obvious that the universe has materialized in your life just to teach you a lesson. The universe, the intelligent force which primarily spends its time meddling in the petty affairs of hairless apes who mope around busying themselves on a spit of sand in the middle of nowhere.
Me: male, 43, straight, non-hierarchical, independent
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