yes we talk...
I apoligize for making it sound like He and I do not communicate. Yes we do talk in depth about how I feel about all this. And yes Him letting go of his poly desires is something that he painfully considers. My issue is that I know how deeply he wants that and I fear that He will be unhappy if he doesn't have it. I do not want Him to be unhappy.
And yes I do know the difference between swinging and poly. Perhaps my post made me sound a bit of a novice. I maintain however that any forum I visit and any research that I have done on jealousy in poly relationships, almost always focuses on the sexual aspect. Very seldom do I come upon anything that addresses the insecurity that comes with shareing a man's heart and head space.