Thanks for the replies Marcus and Evad, very helpful and insightful. I talked with my boyfriend about how hearing him saying how he wants time with his spouse, love from her etc...i just also want to hear he wants those from me. Funny, but one thing that had irked me that he said about her, he ended up saying about me a few days later and helped me remember we are both important to him.
J: my husband of 10 years
Nudge: my boyfriend
on the jounrey to the new normal