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Old 06-19-2013, 05:18 AM
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Originally Posted by Precious1 View Post
Found out my partner had a long term love affair on his wife long ago. I'm feeling very hurt, because he did not disclose it to me before.
My take on this is that the issue is *not* which details of his past he has divulged to you and which ones he didn't choose to tell you about. The issue is that you are aware that he has a history of lying and cheating and this makes you uneasy. Now you have discovered a particular detail which you can call him out for hiding from you... I would suggest having a conversation about your *actual* fears instead of chasing around this excuse.

If it's just a matter of you being mad because he didn't fully confess all of his sins to you... I don't know what to tell you. Why is his personal history your business? Is he applying for a job?
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