Thanks Kevin but you probably realise it isn't really a matter of 'the tables being turned'. I think one of the positives of polyamory is that it tends to bring up our 'stuff' to be dealt with. We can be fine with things on an intellectual level but all kinds of emotions can come to the fore. My polyamorous relationship is bringing up feelings of abandonment in Zen that we have traced back to his childhood. We have been together for five years and the other night he lay in my arms and just cried, something he has never done before. We are taking things very gently and very respectfully and I'm having fun putting all the skills I learned here into practise.