Things need to be negotiated. You still haven't told us, is this a triad or a V? Do they want to "share" you or does the h move back and forth, giving one on one time to each woman?
You said she rarely hugs you anymore (being sick and thanking you for housework and childcare doesn't count). Do you 2 have a sexual/romantic relationship? You sound like a slave to me. Since you mentioned the Emaw name as Hebrew for mother, I am getting a Sarah/Hagar vibe.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
There's no lying in polyamory!
I'm a 58 year old woman with 2 partners:
miss pixi, my live-in gf, 36 (together since Jan '09)
Ginger, bf, 61, married, lives nearby (together since Jan '12)