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Old 06-17-2013, 06:20 AM
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I maintain that the only people who are particularly bothered by the word are the ones who will also say things like "i am kinky, I slapped her butt during doggy last night", so yeah, still not seeing a value judgement because kink isn't of different value than vanilla sex or a vanilla relationship.

On Fetlife right now there is a discussion about this and it's quite clear that some people believe being in a kink based relationship means that communication, trust, etc is inherently superior than it is in a vanilla one. You know, some people say the same about polyamorous relationships. These people are definitely making a value judgement when they say vanilla, they believe that vanilla relationships are inferior and anything they say about vanilla relationships will echo that sentiment.
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