Originally Posted by Natja
Is it having a monogamous relationship or is it maybe you behaving monogamously? I had to figure that out myself so it's a good idea to distinguish between the two. Having more than one partner and to try to balance their needs can be emotionally taxing, maybe you need more time for yourself?
I wouldn't call what the OP is feeling anything close to behaving monogamously. Its a bigotry against all females because of a negative experience with some females. Its an unacceptable attitude though wonderful she can identify a what and why.
I was jumped once by a group of girls with darker skin than my own. What would you call it if I had no issue with my partners dating light skinned people but flipped my shit over a dark skinned metamour?